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69 comments on “Sab D’Souza”

  1. Thank you for a beautiful service that channelled Sab’s love, care and solidarity so generously. Sab brought so much joy to my life and to the communities they nourished. Deepest condolences to all their family and loved ones.

  2. Thankyou for the beautiful words and stories shared about Sab. ❤ I’ll be thinking of your family during this time. They will be missed.

  3. Lee, I was so saddened to hear the devastating news about Sab. Sending you and your family all the strength and love in the world right now. ❤️

  4. Lee, Wendyl, Bebe and Tom, words cannot express the deep pain and sadness you and Sab’s communities are experiencing. My heart hurts for you and for the pain Sab was in.

    I found out about their death through social media, which is fitting given Sab’s passion.

    You are all embedded in my thoughts.

    I will light some incense on my shintoy for Sab to guide their way.

    Love and solidarity,

  5. Words aren’t enough, it’s just so heartbreaking. We love you all so much! The service was absolutely beautiful xxx

  6. Lee, Wendyl, Bebe and the wider Allen family, Geoff and I send our love. Thinking of you all at this very sad time. Thanks for sharing with us in Aotearoa.

  7. Thank you for sharing what Sab meant to you and all of us. Sending all my love to you- Bebe, Lee & Wendyl. I will love Sab forever and will carry their brave spirit with me always.

  8. Val and Graeme

    Deepest condolences to your family and wishing you much comfort, courage and strength. Sending best wishes for Sab to soar, fly and rest in everlasting peace and love.

  9. Sending care and solidarity to Sab’s family and friends and everyone else they reached through their art, politics, research, or from them being ‘very online’. Sab’s impact has been real, strong, and lasting. What a force! Thanks for all the stories <3

  10. Sending deepest condolonces to Sab’s family. Thank you for sharing stories about Sab, such a privilege to have known them .

  11. Sab, if energy is not created in the universe, and neither destroyed, then your great warmth, compassion and generosity of spirit will be vibrating somewhere forever, or perhaps everywhere, but especially in all you loved and love you; and in the legacy of your many salient works that will continue to challenge and inspire for years to come; and in the infrastructures of solidarity and resistance you helped build, that will support people in their struggles for justice, and a kinder, softer more understanding world.

    Whereever, and everywhere you are, I hope you meet peace.

    To Sab’s family – to Bebe, Tom, Lee, Wendyl and the rest, I want you to know you have all my love and support, and that I’ll be here for you for whatever you need as you navigate the profound loss of such an incredible person.

  12. Sending my satellite of love to you – Bebe, Tom, Lee, Wendyl, Megan, and the many people who loved Sab. Sab’s profound life and impact is held close to our hearts.

  13. Thank you so much to Sab’s family community for your enormous work in sharing this service and your grief with us. I am so grateful and indebted to Sab.

  14. Thank you for sharing. Sab’s rage and passion helped me to articulate my own. Deepest sympathy.

  15. I’m so grateful for being given this space to farewell Sab, to be moved by each speaker (and singer!) to feel the fullest range of emotion, and to be able to think of them and love them together. Thank you to everyone who helped put it together, and sending my love to you Bebe, Lee, Wendyl, Tom, and all of the friends and family who are grieving Sab.

    While I wish I could’ve farewelled them in person, I still feel comforted to remember – as I cry in front of my laptop – that Sab knew very well the experience of being “(hot,) sad & online”!

    I will miss feeling seen by Sab, and I will miss the easy abundance of their conversation: talking to them could make me feel like there was all the time in the world, like every/any feeling could and would be felt, and like anything/everything was funny.

    I hope we can do justice to their care & solidarity, love & rage, and that I can carry it with me forever.

    Rest well, Sab.

  16. I feel so lucky to have crossed paths with Sab, and I know they shaped so many different spaces, people and perspectives through their friendship, work and – above all – care. No words can begin to express the enormity of this loss but this service came as close as possible. Condolences and infinite love to Bebe, Lee, Wendyl and Sab’s family and friends. Care and solidarity. x

  17. I throw my arms around you Wendyl, Lee and Bebe and Sab … and Megan … and all
    You are all and everything and all this and these and those and they
    And under the scattered stars we are all always

  18. I drove past our old abode on Waratah Ave last weekend and it felt like just yesterday we were living there together with jess and molly. I have such fond memories of my time living with Sab. One thing I have always remembered from them is the way we can love and be critical simultaneously. Sab taught me how to be humorous even in the face of complexity and has never let me live down the time I nearly burnt our house down from cooking potato gems. Sab has always and will continue to have a special place in my heart.

  19. Dear Lee, Wendyl and Bebe,

    That was a beautiful tribute to Sab. Sending lots of love and holding you all in our thoughts❤️

  20. Thanks for sharing Sab’s life with us. We wish you and all their friends the strength and courage to carry on their legacy and to celebrate their life. With our love, Bryan & Marilyn

  21. Dear Lee, Wendy and Bebe. Sending my deepest condolences and intense admiration for your strength at this time. Love from Victoria

  22. Thank you endlessly for live streaming the service, it truly meant so so much. I’ll love and miss Sab forever.

  23. Sending so much love to Sab’s family. I feel so lucky to have known Sab and I miss them and will miss them forever.

  24. Thank you for making such huge efforts to share this service, these memories, this grief and celebration with so many of us. Sab was a fearless and relentless teacher, even when the burden of educating others was overwhelming and especially when they weren’t even trying to educate – they were just being themself, sharing a feeling, sharing a thought, sharing their tenacity, energy, fierceness, vulnerability, expressiveness, brightness, verve. I am still learning from them and will continue to learn from them as I remember and reflect on everything they have challenged me with, gifted me with, and taught me since meeting in 2014. Memories of the last 8 years keep coming back to me in moments, but it might be worth mentioning again that Sab’s fortitude, grit and presence made things possible for so many. I remember being so scared of everything, of myself, of the world, and knowing that maybe Sab could be someone I could talk to about things that now seem less than earth shattering (my own sexuality, my relationship to gender, etc). Sab lived hard in hard places when others of us didn’t have the strength to dare to be even slightly different (like Goldstein College at UNSW, where I first met Sab). In making themself visibly against the grain, they so often acted as a lighthouse who brought so many of us into our own lives and possibilities. Sab–I know I am in your debt and I hope to honour you as best I can in my own attempts at fierceness and relentlessness and connection and visibility and vulnerability in life. Thank you for so much more than I can ever comprehend or say. Thank you.

  25. I’m grateful to be able to be here via the livestream. thank you to everyone who spoke today, so beautifully
    all my love, Brighid

  26. So much love Lee, Wendyl, Bebe, Megan and family xx lovely celebration, and Lee your right, we learn through our kids, and Sab clearly loved and was so loved. Hugs x

  27. With you online. Loving you from afar. No words ever enough. Unable to hug….Thank you for including us. What a wonderful way to honour Sab. We honour you all for it. ….. LOVE From Maree, Anna, Jose’ and Matthew xo xo xo xo

  28. Until we meet again Sab. Thank you for keeping in touch and all the love. Know that you will always have a very special place in my heart.

    Everytime I bake a cheesecake .. I will eat an extra slice for you ♥️

    Lee, Wendyl and Bebe.. sending you all my love.

  29. Dear Lee and family…
    Thanks for allowing us attending such a hard an extraordinary moment..
    sending you lots of love and prays

  30. Dear Lee, Wendyl and Bebe my deepest condolences. What an honour to hear of Sab’s colourful and fearless life.

  31. Rest in peace Sab, I feel so blessed to have known you. Sending so much love to all of Sab’s loved ones, what a beautiful service

  32. I’ll miss you Sab. Thank you for all our chats during our time together at SSPS and NHS. Your words of wisdom will forever remain with me. Sending lots of love to your family. Rest In Peace Sab. Love Jenny (or Little J/Little one as you’d say) ❤️

  33. I never met Sab, but their online presence became such an important parasocial relationship in my daily life. I can’t express just how much support and validation they provided to me without them even ever knowing it.
    I’m so deeply sorry for you loss. Thank you for sharing this farewell. <3

  34. Dear Lee, Wendyl and Bebe,
    My condolences to you all. My heart aches for your loss. I can only imagine how that feels for you. I have heard so much about Sab’s amazing life and legacy. I pray for you all to find comfort in seeing her work and values held up by generations to come. Sending lots of love ❤️ Nardine Elzahaby

  35. Sending Sab’s friends and family lot of strength and love. Thank you Sab the art & work you had done for the community<3

  36. My deepest condolences to Sab’s family. I was privileged to have Sab in my class at COFA. A true shining, shimmering light in my classroom each week.

  37. Rest in power Sab, your presence and legacy was/is infinite. We shared some very strange yet super queer quirks, will miss our tik tok laughs and DnMs.

  38. Dear Lee, thinking of you and your beautiful family right now…I’m with you all in the pain and sorrow, and in admiration of Sab who was so strong and an amazing person.
    Sending you and your family much love and peace…

  39. Rest In Peace Sab.
    My deepest condolences to the family. I hope that you find ways to bear this loss and celebrate the life that was Sab.

  40. You always made me feel at home, in a place where I didn’t know anyone. I will never forget how quickly you opened up your life to me, and made a space for me in your life. I don’t know how to share how much I’ll miss your beautiful smile and the warmth of your friendship. Thank you Sab

  41. It’s a honour to hear of the stories of fun, love and beauty of Sab. My heart is with you all.

  42. Dear Lee, Wendyl and Bebe I had a fall last night (nothing serious) and could not attend in person, and I am attending online. Deep condolences again. Love.

  43. Sending my deepest condolences to the family and I feel very privileged to have known Sab. Much love Jen Voogt(Sophs mum)❤️

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